5:34 a.m. A man wakes up. Silence. He stands motionless welcoming the morning air. Sunlight slices through eastern window panes. He gazes west and spots airplanes on the horizon. The Columbia river dances. Skyward stretches satisfy. His lengthy frame enfolds and blossoms with necessary adjustments. He rubs an elbow, and then an ankle. Pain. Injury. Javelin. Vicodin. Toxic memories coarse through veins. A wily-haired child rustles the sheets. She is slung across an elegant dark-haired woman. The man assembles his attire and steals a glance at a second child sleeping in another room. His heart is warm.
He quietly descends the stairs, makes an espresso, and retreats to the porch basking in his adulation for the morning. His body is recovering. He’s not a runner. He retrieves a one-hitter and inhales a single, strong toke. Ritual. He’s a creature of habit. Pranayama and cannabis lift his mind, body, and spirit. The sky is the limit. He steps into a pair of shoes, the laces on which reveal years of companionship. Sunlight pushes through cherry trees casting bouncy shadows. He jostles around with the natural rhythms of his surroundings. The wind gently caresses his face. A purposeful inhalation marks the start and the finish. He takes his place at the line and waits…
I’m not your typical cannabis user
I am a parent, and former public school educator, coach, D-1 athlete, and I smoke herb. So, do I fall into that category of “not your typical cannabis user”? If so, what does this mean? Is pop-culture so engrained in our society that we cannot see past the basic Cheech & Chong stereotypes? I hope not. I’d like to think that at least cannabis users are more evolved and thoughtful than this, and, considering 64% of cannabis consumers polled in California are parents, it looks like we are in the majority. So maybe I am your typical cannabis user. Maybe typical cannabis users are responsible, intelligent, and empathetic; maybe they’re enthusiastic, charismatic and funny; maybe they’re thought leaders and innovators; maybe the typical cannabis user is who we should be looking up to, not looking down on.
I live in the grey-area and I love it
I left public school teaching to become a stay-at-home dad six years ago. It hasn’t been easy. I certainly will not miss the tantrums, diaper explosions or getting midnight throat-kicked like I’m fighting Jean Claude Van Damn circa 1988, but I wouldn’t trade that time for anything.
Parenting is tough and cannabis helps me be better at it. I can remember so many trying days in my parenting life, and a little inspiration from my one-hitter always aided in adjusting my perspective. It helped me be present and focus on important things like making awesome dinners, playing cars until your knees are numb, playing dress-up in mid-August, and doing massively ambitious – and messy – art projects without a care in the world.
Pot & parenting may be a grey-area to some, but the truth is, perception is reality. Not everyone believes in science and research; however, cannabis science and research does exist, and it suggest the upsides to cannabis are tremendous.
So, how do you talk to your kid about pot? Should you tell them you use cannabis? Should you use it freely in front of them? There are no easy answers to these questions, but in talking with people a theme did emerge: Truth. Truth trumps fear. Truth trumps rhetoric. Truth trumps misinformation. The grey-area is ours. We live here and we get to define it, so let’s do it with honesty and integrity.
Educate without fear
I first smoked bud at age eleven. It was during a family vacation to California and it happened quickly. I had been watching the movie Friday a lot, so when the opportunity presented itself I thought I was ready. I hollered “I’m the smoke-dog!” and puffed as hard as I could on that joint. I stood nervously in a dark, breezy parking lot as some type of cosmic euphoria seeped into my being. Suddenly I was in a video game simulating real life. It felt good and then it was over. In the end, we all got busted by our parents and I didn’t smoke again for two years.
I wish I had waited longer, maybe until college, but I didn’t and by the end of my senior year of high school I was smoking herb before, during, and after school. Tolerance was a badge of honor. A few strong tokes should have been enough, but we were always pushing it past the level of safe consumption. Maybe this binging mentality is a byproduct of the fear based rhetoric that has clouded and confused youth into thinking something is more illicit than it really is. Moderation is important. Truth is important.
New science, research and the end of prohibition are changing how we can discuss, engage in, and think about cannabis. We are living in a special, but challenging, time. Information has never been freer. We must seize the opportunity and bring basic cannabis knowledge into our national and global consciousness without fear or prejudice.
I first learned about Splimm in May of 2017, and I immediately knew I wanted to get involved. I reached out to Chad & Jenn to thank them for their brave and important work. This marked the beginning of a new and exciting opportunity with Splimm and the cannabis community. I will be heading up Splimm’s sales and content-marketing sponsorship program, which is specifically designed to take us and our partners into the next phase of growth. We are aiming high and we want you to go high with us. So, whether you have parents or you are a parent yourself, Splimm is for you. Join today and help us spread the love of pot & parenting. We go high.